Some of you have said how hard it is to know what to do when you see bullying happening. Even though that's all outlined for you in the guide you'll find on the website
in a booklet called "How To Stand Up To Bullying", it can be hard to remember all that when somebody's being told she can't go to her locker, or a bunch of girls at church are totally making another girl feel like she should be dropped into the nearest trashcan.
The Tribelet in SO Not Okay has a code for that. They call it the Gold Thumb. It's based on the verse in the Bible:
"Here is a simple rule-of-thumb guide for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you; then grab the initiative and do it for them." (Matthew 7:12, The Message)
(By the way, 'initiative' means having an idea and going with it without somebody having to tell you to do it. It's like doing the dishes for your mom when you didn't even dirty them. That's taking initiative)
How does this Gold Thumb rule apply to being a part of a Tribelet against bullying?
Let's say there's a girl in your neighborhood or school or church who is being told she's a loser because she's in Special Ed.
* imagine that you're her; what does it feel like to be teased like that?
* think about what you would want somebody to do for you if you were in that situation? Tell you that you aren't a loser? Ask you about something you're good at or like to do? Tell you that those people don't know what they're talking about? Just smile at you?
* Whatever it is you would want someone to do for you, do it for that person who's being bullied.
Your challenge this time is to see how many kids you notice who are being treated meanly in some way and practice the Gold Thumb rule on every one of them. Don't forget the people in your own family (siblings can be pretty rough on each other).
Keep track of how many times you practice the Gold Thumb rule and of course write down what you did to apply it. If you have a Talking To God Journal, you can use that.
You have two weeks for this challenge because next week I'm going to be away on a vacation ... to, wait for it ... DISNEYWORLD!! While I'm gone, work on this challenge, write down your results, and be ready to talk about it here on After School Wednesday on November 5.
If you want to comment, and we hope you will:
* Tell us if you're up for this challenge
* Give us some examples of you following the Gold Thumb rule for someone who's being bullied
* Tell us if anyone else has ever used the Gold Thumb for you.
One last thing: I would love to have your prayers because tomorrow I'm doing an antibullying event at a middle school -- 400 seventh graders, girls AND boys. It's our first SO Not Okay school presentation and although we're totally excited about it (their cheerleaders have even made up a SO Not Okay cheer!), I'm a little anxious because I want to do the best job I can in God for the kids. So will you pray? I'll let you know how it goes!