Hello, Ladies. Have I mentioned lately how much I appreciate you girls? I go away for a week (I really was working as well as vacationing as you can clearly see!) and you carry on, helping each other work through stuff. Then I come back, publish a post, and leave you for another week while I prepare for the important conference I'm running starting this Sunday, and you dive right into the new topic with intelligence and honesty. Then I pop back in to say I'm leaving for that conference and will you hang in there for another week. And I know you will. You truly do amaze me. Not just with your patience, but with the way you have learned to discuss topics with integrity.
Take this one, about what works and what doesn't in those difficult moments with parents. I think you all agreed that counting to ten does NOT work -- for a number of reasons, not the least of which is that during that silence your parents think you're dissing them (when in actuality you're trying not to say things that really WOULD dis them!) But you came up with some stunning things that do, and I'd like to summarize those for you, in case you haven't been able to read all the comments:
When my parents would really irritate the daisy petals out of me, I would catch myself with a thought that came to me more frequently as I grew in my relationship with Christ. "If God was standing right here and listening to Mom and me, would he be proud me?" Of course, God is doing that in spirit, but that thought calms my fury enough for me to think logically about what would be a more respectful approach to the current problem. (SKYE)
Something I've been trying to do lately when I get an attitude is say a quick Our Father to myself. It helps remind me that when I'm interacting with my parents, I'm also interacting with my true Father. Remembering that God is the one perfect parent who will never make a mistake with me is really comforting, and praying to Him as Father helps remind me that He commands me -- *commands* me -- to honor and obey the parents He gave me. (RACHEL)
I think the thing that's going to help me whenever my father says for the thousandth time that I'm being rude or when my parents aren't really paying attention is "So what? None of us is perfect. So my parents aren't quite understanding me yet, big deal. God understands me, and if I'm patient (REALLY patient) then I will eventually get through to my parents, and they'll get through to me. And maybe (just maybe) just saying 'whatever' isn't clear enough for my parents (SARAH)
Sometimes when I feel like at a bad mood, on not that happy, I don't really talk to them because it is when I'm not patient, and I can get in trouble. I think that works because now (after I talked to my mom about that) if I don't talk to her, she doesn't go to my room and start talking when I don't want to and also arguing. I still love them a lot, it's just that my attitude needs improvement. (SYLVI)
Usually for me, words just come right out of my mouth and I regret them and wish I could take them back, so usually just trying not to say ANYTHING at all works for me, but not doing it in a way that it seems like I'm ignoring them, but at least appear to be listening, and THEN stating what I think AFTER they're done (IN LOVE WITH JESUS)
Explaining things calmly does work-even if your not calm at all 4. Telling them your sorry (only if you mean it) it works when you argue with them it makes them feel good that your sorry, and forgiving them if/when they say sorry will make them feel better to. (JESUS FREAK)
Whenever I want to blow up to my mom I think for a split second, would God want me doing this? Is it right? Then it kind of calms me down enough to listen what she has to say. (LEXI)
Do you even realize how much maturity you're showing? That's why I know you'r'e ready for this -- You're going to get irritated with your parents. It's in your contract as a teenager, for all the reasons we've talked about in previous posts. Right now it's all about managing that irritation while you find better ways to communicate. Again, I know it seems like, "They're the parents -- why don't THEY figure ME out?" I'll tell you why I think that is. In Genesis 2:24, there's this little verse that often gets overlooked, but that really speaks to what we're talking about here.
"A man will LEAVE his father and mother and be united to his wife."
What on EARTH does that have to do with this conversation? It's that word "leave." Think of this as a metaphor for growing up as a whole (not just getting married!) It's doesn't say the parents will shove the young man (or young woman) out the door. It says the kid is going to do the leaving. It isn't up to your parents to "grow you up." That's impossible! The responsibility is on you to do the maturing, and that includes taking the higher ground in arguments, being the young woman who is worthy of respect, "fighting fair" rather than resorting to manipulation.
Okay, so yeah, parents are the people who have to love you no matter how vile your behavior. And sometimes it feels like, when the world is beating you up, you just have to lash out at somebody and they're the only ones who won't kick you to the curb if you do. Still, that doesn't mean it's okay. That means they're the ones you can practice your new-found maturity and integrity on. So what DOES work?
* Expressing your appreciation for all they do for you when you're NOT duking it out over grades or boys or whatever else.
* Cutting them some slack because raising you is hard
* Considering their side of the issue as well as your own
* Presenting your case without resorting to whining, accusing, venting ad nauseam, and saying, "You always" or "You never!"
* Honoring their final say. I didn't say "like it." Just honor it.
And how, pray tell, are you supposed to do all that when you're about to explode with frustration? Honey, that's what you've got God for.
What do you say we turn to a new topic? I'm sensing that several of you are struggling with pressure and responsibility. Am I right? Is life seeming "too much" these days? With a new school year starting, I think now is the perfect time to look at the question: How can I HANDLE all of this? If you want to post this week while I'm away, please share the biggest pressures in your life right now, the responsibilities that weigh the heaviest on you, the places where you want to go back to being ten years old again. Sound good?
In the meantime, don't forget that we'll have another weekend blog "retreat" this fall. Be thinking about a theme. You might want to discuss that among yourselves while I'm away. Who wants to volunteer to keep that discussion going? I'd love to be surprised with a theme when I get back!
Blessings,
Nancy Rue
Oh my gosh! That is JUST what I need I am really stressed and just going under (so to speak).
Posted by: Natalie | 09/09/2011 at 01:25 AM
I've actually recently gotten rid of the main thing that was stressing me out. I realized it wasn't doing my any good, so I found a way to take me out of the situation without giving up the activity.
Yay I'm excited for the retreat! I wasn't here for the last one :( I'll help keep the discussion going so we can come up with an awesome theme. How about we each post like 3 different themes and then we can see which ones are repeated and stuff. My ideas are: Having peace in all situations, talking about and sharing our faith, and...I can't think of a third one right now! I'll keep thinking and come back with my third :)
Posted by: Melody | 09/09/2011 at 08:41 AM
I have so many big stressers right now, so I can't wait for the next batch of posts! So the main things stressing me out currently are my health (Medically things are a little unstable right now, very rocky, and very uncertain) and school (Of course.)
I can't wait for the fall retreat. I missed the last one, so I am so excited to finally get to be here.
Posted by: Alisha | 09/09/2011 at 02:08 PM
I am the oldest in my family, with one brother and three sisters. I have a lot of responsibility. I also have more school work to do now that I'm in eight grade. Also I'm homeschooled so my siblings noise is right there. I wasn't here for the retreat last time (when was it?) I'm excited!!!!
Posted by: God'sGirl/Abi | 09/09/2011 at 02:16 PM
I'm really sorry I haven't joined in in a while. I was on vacation with very limited internet access, but I'm really glad to be back. This post came at just the right time because I'm having problems with school. I just recently started year 9 (8th grade in America) and school is really depressing me. My dad told me today that I now have to decide whether to transfer or not, but transferring at this point in time would be really difficult (due to the school system). And I sort of feel that I need to be at my current school, but then again it really upsets me as well.
Posted by: Miriam | 09/09/2011 at 02:58 PM
I think I really explained why my level of stress is so high in my last comment. I am currently in Tennessee on a collage trip for my sister, but I am also looking for myself even though I am only a freshman this year. Having 9 people in the same car for 13 hours is really hard and having those same people in 1 hotel room. I am learning a lot of things about dealing with kids and not just the babysit kind the parenting kind. It's weird thinking that if we adopt these kids my baby brother could be an uncle before he enters middle school. Please pray for my family and that the judge makes the best decision for these kids.
I could not participate in the retreat last time so i would LOVE to this time.
Posted by: Alyson | 09/09/2011 at 04:02 PM
SO glad you're back Mrs. Rue! The post was wonderful; it's just what I've been needing here lately. I recently have been thinking about growing up. Last night I was on my bed tearing up. Literally, it seems like yesterday I was a little toddler without a care in the world and now here I am 13 going on 14. I just want everything to stop so I can have time to enjoy what God has so graciously given me. I honestly think that is the responsibility weighing the heaviest on me - growing up and still keeping God in the picture. He gave his one and only son to die that horrible death on the cross, so I want to give him everything I've got. I have to admit - it's hard. Keeping my school life together with band and everything else keeps me busy. I can't ever seem to find any time to have a good quiet time with God. I hurriedly do a devotion every other night right before I drift off to sleep night but it's not helping me that much. It makes me feel horrible, that thats what's keeping me from having a great relationship with him. I also just want less stress in general. I am so jealous of every little kid I see! But I know you can't stay young forever. Growing up takes responsibility and responsibility takes maturity. God never said doing the right thing was going to be easy and I have learned that. I love God more than anything and want to bring more people to him so they can have everlasting life. I am REALLY trying this weekend to figure out a way to do a devotion and spend time with God more than I have been, because he so deserves it.
I also think knowing how to witness God's love to others would be a good topic. I really want to, it's what we were put here to do, but I can't ever seem to find an opportunity and if I do, don't know what to say. So I think that would be a great topic!☺
I am SO sorry for such a long comment, but I just felt like I needed to say all that. Praying for all of you!
♥Love y'all♥
Posted by: ╬Lexi╬ | 09/09/2011 at 05:17 PM
Lexi, I totally understand about the age thing. I turned 14 yesterday and it just feels weird that I can't be little again. I don't FEEL like I'm 14 and it's a little, well, scary.
Posted by: Miriam | 09/09/2011 at 07:27 PM
Great Post, Mrs. Rue!
Well, the situations in which I wish to be a little girl, is when you have a much closer relationship with your parents. I mean, when I was little, life was much simple and I was their cutie. I sometimes wish time could stop to feel those moments--your mom carrying you on your lap--well stuff like that. Don't get me wrong, I don't wish to be carried on mom's lap as a teen, but I love the closeness, the feeling. Well, the thing is OK, too, but you know what I mean (hehehe). When I was 10, I didn't have those attitude problems (which is what I struggle with a lot), and we didn't argue. I love them a ton, though, but I wish we were even closer.
About the retreat:
Super excited. Don't have time now, but I'll post some themes later.
Love, and prayers to y'all!
Sylvi
Posted by: Sylvi! | 09/09/2011 at 09:09 PM
School and sports. Theres SO much pressure to be good at everything right now. I rolled my ankle today and instead of actually caring about my ankle I waas asking my coach when i could start diving again.
XOXO
JF
Posted by: JESUS FREAK | 09/09/2011 at 11:04 PM
COLLEGE COLLEGE COLLEGE COLLEGE!!!! I was so excited to get back from China a couple weeks ago, but it seems like ever since I got back my parents have been pressuring me about getting good grades, getting community service hours, getting info about tons of differents colleges, etc. I wish I could be having a more relaxing transition into life at home and junior year, but instead I feel more stressed than ever! I can't believe college is less than two years away-I don't want to grow up:(
Posted by: Katie | 09/10/2011 at 05:00 PM
To everyone who says they want to "go to" the retreat: What are your ideas for themes? We should try to get our ideas down to at least 2 or 3 for when Mrs. Rue gets back. And I totally relate to stressing about college considering I'm a senior this year!
Posted by: Melody | 09/10/2011 at 05:07 PM
Hi. My mom just showed me this website and i read this. I saw that it was about being pressured and worried, which is exactly how Ive been feeling lately. I just started 8th grade, same school. I have a lot of good friends which is helpful. But ive been really worried lately. Ive been stressed about school starting, with all new classes and teachers, and my sister recently had head lice and my mom has been acting super paranoid about it. My mom's stepsister had liver cancer and just had surgery. She's doing great but we're still worried. My grandpa isnt in wonderful health either. I'm also redoing my room as a birthday present, and its been a big change from yellowish brown to bright blue. I love it but I think the change is stressing me out. I've also been worried about bad things happening to myself and people I love, and I dont know why.
Sydney
Posted by: Anne | 09/10/2011 at 09:59 PM
Hey Everyone!!!
I read read Nancy's books for a long time now but I am just now getting into her blog so I hope that I can get to know some of you girls who are struggling with the same things that I am soon :) Well starting 8th grade has been really stressful and filled with a lot of pressure since all my school talks about is going to highschool and how all of those grades will count for college... and all that stuff... plus my parents are getting a divorce so I have been having to grow up really fast all of a sudden to help with my siblings, especially my younger brother so I am so nervous that I will just make things worse for my family... I don't know why but I am so hopefullly I will be able to just.... sigh... relax :)
Jen<3
Posted by: Jen <3 | 09/10/2011 at 10:10 PM
Oh and Lexi I also totally get what you mean!!! I am so with ya girl! I just turned 14 today and I am soooo sad that everything is going by so quickly!
Posted by: Jen <3 | 09/10/2011 at 10:11 PM
I can relate to the stress thing. I had a pretty awful school year last year, stress-wise, and I really didn't want school to start again this year. I've been doing okay so far, but sometimes that stressed feeling starts creeping in. I don't feel old, though. Some of my best friends are younger than I am. My sister is two years younger, so I'm surprisingly very good friends with a girl her age and HER younger sister. It sounds weird, but because of them I can be mature and at the same time, a little kid again.
Posted by: Veronica | 09/11/2011 at 11:28 AM
Welcome Anne and Jen!!!!
Stressed out areas in my life. School, I have an insane amount of homework, and I also have diving, and my mom wants me to be in choir or play an instrument.... And then with sports, We have like this HUGE meet its like a state-wide meet and so my coaches and everything are pressuring me... And then my phone is like not working properly. And I feel like I have no time to rest. And that's all I feel like doing. I feel like all the fun in life is being sucked out of me and as I'm typing this I feel like crying. I don't know why.
Sorry this was sort of a debby downer comment. :(
Please pray.
xoxo
JF
Posted by: JESUS FREAK | 09/11/2011 at 02:36 PM
Oh yea my ankle's better
:)
xoxo
JF
Posted by: JESUS FREAK | 09/11/2011 at 02:37 PM
Welcome Anne and Jen!
And praying, JF.
As for ideas for the weekend retreat this fall... hmm, maybe something to do with that verse "Be still and know that I am God." Maybe like how we're supposed to do that in our own lives, and what it exactly means to be still and know that God is God
LYALS
Posted by: Alisha | 09/11/2011 at 10:58 PM
Thank you for the wonderful welcome JF and LYALS :)I was wondering what this weekend fall retreat thing is? Like how does everyone do it? But I do love that verse LYALS!
Jen <3
Posted by: Jen <3 | 09/12/2011 at 11:27 AM
Big welcome to Anne and Jen! Y'all will absolutely LOVE it here!
Posted by: ╬Lexi╬ | 09/12/2011 at 05:51 PM
Welcome everyone!
I totally relate on a theme about stress and stuff.
Also, about true friendships, and knowing God's our friend no matter what.
Jen <3: Well, the retreat is virtually (obviously, but I wish it would be IRL) and we do 3-4 sessions on the blog. It's so much fun cuz we learn, pray, and even have contests! Each session is about 1-3 hours or so. It's really amazing. I can't wait, and I hope i can make it. Oh, Mrs Rue starts us off with a post imagining we're there, and telling us what we'll need and stuff--it is a totall blast! We had a summer one about inner beauty, and we're doing it like one a quarter?
<3 and prayers to all of you, wonderful girls! Oh, also Mrs Rue and Crystal (how is she, BTW?)
Sylvi!
Posted by: Sylvi! | 09/12/2011 at 06:49 PM
I can totally relate, JF. Praying!
Posted by: Veronica | 09/12/2011 at 07:36 PM
I think that right now the most stressful thing in my life is the extracurriculars in my life. I have been doing piano, ballet, and equestrian my whole life. I've been doing it so many years that I have lost interest in ballet and really don't want to do it any more. My mom insisted that I keep it up. This part is irritating to me: when I was signing up for extracurriculars, I begged my mom to please let me drop ballet because I was stressed with school and hadn't even enjoyed it that much the year prior. She finally pressured me into agreeing to it for this year and then, "We'll see." When I was talking to her recently trying to tell her how awful it was and how I just wanted to cry at every ballet class (very mature, huh?) she would say I was just overwhelmed the day and how I have to continue ballet all through high school! Where did that come from? I am just so frustrated with it!
Trying to keep my grades at top notch as well as my other activities that I've been doing for years isn't leaving me time to try anything new or see if I have talents in any other areas. I got a 19/20 on an assignment and my Dad started saying that I could do better than that. It hurt so much!
So, that is all that is basically irritating me. :)
Posted by: Skye | 09/13/2011 at 12:57 AM
Things that I have been stressed about... There are (sadly) so many right now! SO I hurst my back during the summer so I am still worried about that, volleyball, school, friends, family, Church, and the list goes on!
Excited for the retreat!
Skye I hope that things get better!
Praying for everyone! Welcome to all the new people!
Posted by: Emilee | 09/13/2011 at 06:19 PM
So busy I don`t have much time to comment or read every ones comments. Yesterday I finally sat down and said I will take 30 mins and write a new blog post. I did then went right to work. Anyway Praying for all of you.
Posted by: Natalie | 09/13/2011 at 11:26 PM
just wanted to let you all know that i'm praying. we're living in real life, you know. i think it's really special that God gives us each the opportunity to live today. and then we wake up... with the chance to live tomorrow. we take it for granted -- perhaps we need a new perspective. not, "ugh. now just to get through today..." but, "hey. i get to live today. not for me, but for God." Glorify Yourself, God. That's my prayer.
Posted by: Emii | 09/14/2011 at 06:25 AM
What has got me really stressed out is school and family stuff. I'm a freshmen this year and my work load it a lot bigger. And Biology is really hard. science has never been one of my favorite subjects and quite frankly I could care less about the molecular structure of a microscopic organism! I also have to make a decision regarding when and if I see my father. Its just so hard to know what to do sometime because I'm so torn! Half of me misses him so much and the other half of me is too afraid to get my heart broken again. I'm not angry at him anymore, I've forgiven him, I am just a bit confused as to what I should be doing right now. And its hard, I talk to my friends about it but they just don't get it, they listen and are so sweet and try an understand but they don't because they have never been through it. I wish i could be little again and not have to make these big decisions. I just keep reminding myself that God's got a plan and that no matter what her loves me and will never leave me. :) Welcome to all the new girls! Hope ya like it here! Its awesome! :D
Posted by: Therese | 09/14/2011 at 04:55 PM
Hey guys! I don't know if any of you remember me from the tween blog but I just turned 13. So I was wondering what's different here?
Posted by: Caitlin | 09/14/2011 at 05:46 PM
The biggest stress for me right now is school. I have to take these tests next year and my mom has been on me about them for weeks now. Well I'm praying for you all.
Posted by: Caitlin | 09/14/2011 at 05:48 PM
Thanks Sylvi! For explaining that all to me! I got it now and it totally sounds like a lot of fun!!!
~Skye I am sooooo sorry that you are so stressed about everything in your life right now. I know it is very hard to find the positive in all of this but in James or somewhere it says that we should be glad when God gives us trials since then or heart knows that he is testing us so that we can be a better person and better prepared for anything that might happen to you in the future. So I know that your thinking "well knowing that God is testing me isn't really helping me right now" but believe me that you will get through this hard time! God will never leave you or forsake you so even if your life does feel awful and you feel like you are the only one struggling... your not! God is right their with you, and from what I have seen so far the girls here will always have your back and you don't ever have to worry about having to be accepted here :) So I hope that things get better soon and that your relationship with God will grow from this :)
Jen<3
Posted by: Jen<3 | 09/14/2011 at 06:05 PM
Jen<3, thank you so much! I really needed that tonight - I was about to breakdown but then i read your post and am going to go read James as soon as I can. Thank you!
Posted by: Skye | 09/14/2011 at 10:58 PM
Your comments are inspiring! (I read the ones that Mrs. Rue posted in her blog post!)
Ooh I am so loving this new subject! I need it, about pressure and responsibility!
My biggest pressures? Well here ya go!
-Juggling time. This year I have a huge homework load and dance every late afternoon/evening and keeping up with my best friend and the blog and everything... it's crazy. I feel like I have no free time to be bored (good and bad, ya know?)
-Good grades. This year I have chemistry and Advanced Math... I'm really struggling to get good grades on the tests, when I can only rely on my memory. I'm just feeling so under pressure and afraid for my grades right now!
-Doing well in dance. I'm trying to move up to the next level by next year. And I have an audition tomorrow for a junior dance company that I really want to get into! I feel so cruddy half the time cause I can't keep by balance or I forget a combo right in the middle of it... :P
haha sorry I was totally venting there!
I am soooo excited for the fall retreat!!
Posted by: Kate S | 09/16/2011 at 10:04 AM
Oh and about the subject of the fall retreat... I'm thinking about this lately and think it would be so helpful- having God in the center of everything- relationships, school, EVERYTHING! I'm trying to do this but it's really hard so I'd love to have a retreat about this! ;) just an idea
Posted by: Kate S | 09/16/2011 at 10:05 AM
My biggest stress right now is probably school, because already I'm getting tons of writing projects and it's only the BEGINNING of the year, and I'm behind already...but that's not the only reason why that's my biggest stress; starting this school-year has just been sorta sad for me because I miss my old school and my old friends that I just suddenly had to leave without even telling them goodbye, and now I'm home-schooled but the start of this school year just reminds me that my old school is starting...without me. But when I stopped missing it, then I was still sad because of all the not-so-good times...that WAY out-numbered the good times...I was abused there and so I still have painful memories of all that and it hurts to think about it and so that's stressful and THEN I have the stress of all my home-work, and all my school is homework because I'm home-schooled.
And on top of that, the night of friday the 13th in the month of May, my grandpa fell down and had to go to all these hospitals, emergency rooms, and nursing homes...and we thought he was going to be there one night. My grandma couldn't stay at their house alone, so she stayed with us. We thought it was going to be one night. ONE night. It's been 5 months. My grandma can't hear a word I say most of the time unless I yell and then she gets mad that I'm yelling at her, but if I don't...she can't hear, and whenever I start to do my school she talks to me again and I never get anything done and then my mom yells because I didn't finish anything, and it's just been sorta stressful for me, and she NEVER stops talking...and I thought that I was the one who talked a lot...well the truth is, I'm actually gonna miss her when she goes back home. IF she goes back home. I'm afraid my grandpa is going to die pretty soon, and then I'll be stuck with my grandma...but I would be sorta glad because I'd miss her if she would go back home. Well anyways on top of that I'm afraid my grandpa's gonna die...and I'd miss him SO much....
Sorry this sounded like one big long complaining paragraph...life's not all that bad, because God is good and He's there and His love never fails so I'm just gonna trust Him
LYLAS
bye
Posted by: InLovewithJesus | 09/16/2011 at 06:15 PM
My biggest stess is trying to do everything at once (well, not everything, but it sometimes feels like it), and to my own level of well, perfectionism. School, and learning about colleges. Church, and it's activities. Going to my grandma and grandpas house, trying to serve God and learn more about Him. Trying to stay in communication with my friends. All of that mixed with daily household responsibilities, is what gives me stress. When I'm stressed out, I get "heartburn" and that stresses me out becuase I have no idea when it will go away. Yet through it all I can have peace and hope because God loves me, and He's there with me in every moment. I can lean on Him, and that makes everything worth it.
As for a retreat topic, I would have to agree with Kate S, "Having God in the center of everything."
That would be so helpful to me, and I think that's really the only way to keep everything balanced and healthy.
Praying for you all,
Posted by: Lilly | 09/17/2011 at 03:02 PM
These are the themes I would like:
Forgiveness: something tough is going in my home, ad my parents. I don't want to go into detail, but prayers are appreciated.
Being closer to God!
Stress about school, college....
I love all you ideas too!
<3 and prayers to all of you.
Sylvi!
Posted by: Sylvi! | 09/18/2011 at 11:27 AM
Hi! I'm Sasha:)
I've been following Mrs.Nancy's blog for a while but, it's been a while since I've actually commented. It seems like there are a bunch of little things that "add up" and cause me to get really stressed, but I guess my two major trials right now are school and relationships (with people in general). School is tricky because I homeschool and I want to do well but, I feel like I'm always having to motivate myself. With friendships, I feel like I always get intimidated by others or feel like I'm not "good enough". Does that make sense? Kinda like what a lot of you have been saying, I have a quite a few things I could mention but, these seem to be the biggest right now :)
I'll be praying for all of you guys!
<3 Sasha
PS Can't wait for the next retreat, is sounds really fun!
Posted by: Sasha | 09/18/2011 at 12:25 PM
Hey girls!
I haven't read all of your comments yet, but I hope I'll have time to sometime this week. Sorry I keep disappearing and then reappearing :P
Well...this next topic is going to be really good for me. I'm just gonna start typing. Feel free to try to follow me, or not...haha
So, I told you girls about orchestra auditions. Thank you for the prayers, by the way! I really wasn't nervous at all..and I think that has a lot to do with how many people were praying for me. Thank you <3 Well, I got the third seat (out of eight) in First Violin section...which, if you aren't familiar with orchestra seating, is pretty good for my second year. I was pretty excited about getting that seat. The stressy part about it is that my good friend, who is a year older than me and has been in the orchestra longer, is my stand partner, but she's in seat 4. I thought she would be happy that we were on the same stand...but all day (tuesday) after we found out the seating, she kept saying stuff like, "The conductor only put you ahead of me because____." And now, I kinda feel bad about getting that seat. This friend doesn't have the best home life by any means, so I it's kind of hard not to think, "She should have gotten seat 3, not me, because she needs it more." I keep telling myself that God put me in this seat for a reason, and I know He did. But it just bothers me that my friend wasn't happy about it.
If you read this, congratulations. I love you. haha :)
LYALS! and praying for you! I'll try to stick with the comment conversations more now that I'm back in my routine.
~Rayray
Posted by: Rachel | 09/18/2011 at 07:54 PM
Oh, and welcome Jen, Anne, and any other new girls!!! <3
~Rayray
Posted by: Rachel | 09/19/2011 at 02:10 PM
And welcome back Sasha! I'm glad you've decided to comment again:D
Okay I'm done with my comment stream now. haha.
~Rayray
Posted by: Rachel | 09/19/2011 at 02:12 PM
Hey girls,
I need you all to pray. I can't go into details (And if I did that would make a really LONG post) But there's a ton going on right now. Please, pray.
Posted by: Alisha | 09/20/2011 at 03:28 PM