Hey, Ladies. Can I just say for about the fifty bajillionth time that I have so much respect for you? You get on here and you ponder what I offer you, and then you give these honest, self-exposing comments. I can only assume they're honest, because why would you say you're having a "pity party" (I am the quintessential hostess of those, PAIGE!), or that you haven't started on big loomng projects and have only yourself to blame (ah, KATIE, that makes me think of deadlines . . .), or that you procrastine on homework by doing other good things, like cleaning (ABBY my house is never so clean as when I need to get started on a new project!), or even that you just found out you didn't get a scholarship ( so sorry, MARLEE; it's so competitive these days). That same honesty keeps you from being inhibited in offering help.
* MELODY sharing that dropping everything to spend kairos time helping a freind made the rest of the day seem not so busy and overwhelming
* MARLEE saying it helped to take a break from "the seemingly never ending strain of homework" and to realize that she needs to spend time doing things that DON'T freak her out.
* EA picking up on that and processing until she got to "I need to seek out those things more (the things that make her experience Kairos) " and "I'll start keeping a list of things like that."
I don't even need to elaborate on those. I'll just say, you would do well to embrace their experience and make it your own.
Keep that up, ladies-- that honesty and courage. That will be a huge factor in "Giving Up Freaking Out" (which we started out yesterday as the "Worry Series", making this Post #2) And thanks for reminding me of that title OLIVIA and MARLEE.
I don't think we had any prayer requests (though those are always welcome) so let's just dive into . . .
"IS TIME THE ENEMY?"
READ: Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 You've heard it before, probably a thousand times. You might even have heard the Sixties song, "Turn, Turn" (Most likely at your grandparents' house!) But read it again, slowly and carefully. Don't get too hung up on individual verses (like "a time to kill" and "a time to hate." Just consider what the author (some scholars say it was King Solomon, others a more lowly subject from a later time period; whoever he was, he was wise) -- just consider what he (or she?) was getting at over all.
PONDER: If God gives a time for everything on that list, then there IS time for what's important. But does it all have to happen at the SAME time? Are there things you're trying to do right now that could wait until a better season? Are you trying to do it all before you're 20? Spend some serious time reflecting on that, journaling about it or sketching your thoughts.
MIGHT I SUGGEST: First, please know that I often find myself thinking of time as my enemy. I read a poem in college, something about "time's winged chariot" being ever at my back, and that image has thundered behind me more than once. Way more than once. So I'm untangling this right along with you. Here's what I'm thinking. I'm thinking that --
(1) Time is only our enemy when we make it our enemy. Sort of like parents at times. Do their rules, expectations, misinterpretation of what you mean sometimes make it seem like you're on opposite sides of a battle ground? Same with time. It's really just there, and it's actually a gift from time. The opposite of having time is, uh, dying. It's our attitude toward it that sets it up as an antagonist.
(2) The only thing I have found that turns time into a friend -- and believe me I have tried every time management program and approach to scheduling known to man (and woman) -- is to put aside the things that make it the enemy, that tip you over the edge so that you come up snarling at it. Before you protest that everything on your list HAS to be done, let me just assure you, it doesn't. Make a list of everything you do. Prioritize it. Pray over it. Then lop off one thing off the bottom. I got rid of Twitter first. I mean, really? Seriously? Then cut something else off. I dumped my personal Facebook profile and stuck with my fan page. See if you can eliminate a third thing off the bottom. I got help with my fan mail in a way that my replies are still personal. For you that might be Facebook, reading every blog in life, hanging out on You Tube, being in every club and activity so your college resume will be stunning, going to every link your friends suggest. (Just don't cut out this blog, okay?!)
(3) Do at least one thing a week that gives you kairos time. Do that more if you can. I look at it as an Artist's Date (a term not original with me). It can be hard to carve out. It is for me. But every time I do it, the rest of my time unfolds more like silk than twine that's in a knot. (make that WET twine!)
(3) Most important of all, seek first the kingdom of God. In our reality, that means have a quiet time with God every single day. Don't let anything else interfere with that 20 or 30 minutes (and hopefully longer some days.) Study the passages you're going to find on here almost daily during Lent. Talk to God about your actual problems. Close your eyes and listen. Let that be kairos time too.
SHARE WITH US: We're on this journey together, me right along with you. So tell us what you feel comfortable sharing from PONDER or any of the other sections. As I hope I showed at the beginning of this post, you are each other's best teachers. I'm just here as the facilitator and guide. And trust me, I'm learning a lot from you, Not only that, but when you write out your thoughts, I can see you processing them as you go. You may not even know what you think until you type it. That, my friends, is the mystery of God at work in you.
Until tomorrow, blessings, Ladies.
"In the fullness of time, put all things in subjection under your Christ." (Book of Common Prayer, Eucharistic Prayer B)