Hello, fellow nudgees. I've been thinking a lot about crawling lately. Baby Maeryn (my granddaughter, for those of you who haven't spent five minutes with me in the last nine months) has just learned how, and to hear all of us cheer "Go Mae!" every time she starts across the floor, you'd think she was going for Olympic Gold. She stops and we clap and she claps and the joy knows no end. Until she heads for an electrical outlet or the stereo cabinet. Then Mama says, "Maeryn Julienne," at which point she turns and sits and waves so coyly you just want to go ahead and hand her the remote.
Yeah, so crawling is my favorite topic these days. I join Maeryn on the floor and get on hands and knees to experience it fully with her. Getting up again is a bit of an issue, but that's why God made physical therapy. Of course the metaphors abound in my brain. I seesaw between two.
One -- as I told my teen girls on their blog earlier today -- I feel sometimes like I'm running at full sprint all the time to get all the "stuff" done, and yet I'm only crawling toward the significant things because there's so little time and energy left from the continuous marathon. I've realized, though, that I'm being nudged daily, even hourly sometimes, to stop running. To evaluate each task and say, "Does this HAVE to be done right now, Nancy, or are you just trying to keep people from thinking you're a slacker?" It seems like every book I pick up -- The Artist's Rule by Christine Valters Paintner and Anthony de Mello's Sadhana, to name two in just the last twenty-four hours -- is about the importance of silence and solitude to creativity. Every morning when I journal it's like this massive purge of "I can't DO all of this!" And God keeps whispering, "Then just do what I have asked you to do." Funny how God never mentions Twitter or Facebook. I am Nudged to question the way I'm running the race that is set before me -- or if I'm even IN the right race at all. As I've said before, every day I quit and begin again.
The other metaphor is quite the opposite. I feel that Nudge when I try to hurry the significant tasks -- like writing a novel, drawing out a friend who's stuck, answering an email from a troubled tween reader, or preparing a workshop for people who yearn to write for God's kingdom. Maybe running is okay for things like tweeting and replying to Facebook comments and throwing in a load of laundry while my computer is upgrading. But for the things of eternal value -- relationships, writing, spiritual study, centering prayer -- I'm pretty sure I -- and all of us -- are Nudged to slow it to a crawl.
That means only running for a very small portion of the day. I get caught up in the ridiculous belief that if I could just catch up, then I could do things differently. If I ever actually get it all done, that will mean I have nothing new on the horizon. Time to pick out music for my funeral service! No -- the Nudge is to say, "Enough!", to get off the track for the rest of the day. I mean, seriously, when has anyone ever said, "I'm not going to read her books any more because she only tweets once a day?"
It means blocking out time to crawl, and getting down on all fours to do it (metaphorically speaking!) so I can't reach the phone or the inbox. It means getting so engrossed in what I'm crawling toward that I don't even hear the signals that I've gotten a text or an email, or that somebody wants to Skype. When I get down into it that way, it's impossible to hurry.
I don't think it matters what God is Nudging us to do: if it's a real Nudge, it requires much time, much space, much freedom, and much delight. It has to be crawled to, with plenty of stopping to clap and wave and consider whether we're still heading where we're supposed to go. I do know that re-learning how to crawl is not a once-and-for-all thing. It's not a matter of from-now-on-I'm-going-to-be-different. It's a process, in my experience, just like anything else that's worth doing.
Sometimes, of course, we get so excited about what we're being Nudged toward, we want to get up and run right at it. After turning in proposals that weren't ready for prime time viewing and promising to endorse manuscripts whose authors I adore and realizing I couldn't possibly do them justice in the time I had, I've figured out that the "God wants me to do this so I have to throw myself right into it," approach is seldom the best one. If you're nudged to grab that kid who is about to be hit by a bus, clearly that's something else entirely. But for most of our significant Nudges, some preparation and training is usually required. I love the rush of a new idea. It's easy, though, when the rush fades and you get down to the nitty gritty, to think, "Maybe this isn't a God-thing after all. I'm not feelin' it." I mean, really, think about marriage -- a new baby -- that great new job -- the mountain top experience at the spiritual retreat. The high is always followed by the down and dirty of just plain hard work. The blow-me-away feeling fuels us for the time when we have to get down on our hands and knees and crawl for the finish line.
Besides, we miss a lot when we're always in the fast lane, exceeding the speed limit. I am delighted when I watch Maeryn inch her way through a room, and she stops to examine each miniscule scrap of paper, each speck of dust, never missing a dog hair. It all goes into her mouth for the ultimate test, and then she proceeds until the next invisible-to-everyone-but-her item catches her big brown eyes. That all changes if she's going for your cell phone, but the point is, if I have my head in my outline and I'm tunneling along at 25 pages a day, I don't hear the God-whispers that say, "What if it happened this way instead?" How many times has the next whole scene come to me when I was taking a break to walk the dogs down to the lake or build the perfect ham, swiss, and pear sandwich with yogurt and dill weed? I've awakened from many a nap with an entire chunk of dialogue pulsing to be written down. You only get a squirt of Gatorade when you're running five minute miles.
Yeah, we've all heard the stop and smell the roses thing. And we've all said, fine, but I'd like to keep my job and not have the health department come in and condemn my bathrooms. There is stuff to be done, and a real Nudge doesn't tell you that you don't have to pay your bills and pick up your kids and answer your email just because you're fulfilling your real purpose. I do believe, though that God says "If you're going to live for Me, you need to --
* Pare down your to do list; I couldn't even accomplish all that you expect yourself to do in twenty-four hours, and I'm God!
* Go ahead and run swiftly and happily through the stuff that needs doing but doesn't require your heart and soul -- but don't discount the fact that I can work in every detail of your daily round
* Stop running before you start to tire and sink into despair; in fact, if you can, do the running last and do the crawling first; I would rather see the small things go undone than the things I have put you here to do for Me
* Don't beat yourself up if you don't do all of the above perfectly; I don't expect perfection; I expect you to simply turn to Me and say, "I'm doing it again, God. Help me to crawl."
If this were easy, we wouldn't be having this conversation. If you've found a way to crawl more effectively or limit your sprints or make time and space for both, please, by all means, share. Especially if you're Nudged to.
Blessings, Nudgees,
Nancy Rue
