1. I'm REALLY glad you haven't had much experience with being forgotten by friends when you've moved away -- or for whatever reason.
2. It sounds like you have FRIENDS who are moving away and the possibility of forgetting THEM is definitely there.
So let's turn this around and look at it from the Staying Friend's point of view. Some thoughts ...
* When a BFF is getting read to move or even just change to a different team or be in classes you're not in, the first thing you say is, "No worries -- we'll still see each other -- email each other -- call each other. We WILL."
* You mean it when you say that. Really, you do.
* At first you keep your promise. "At first" could mean anything from the whole semester to, um, five minutes.
* Then life kind of gets in the way. You have two billion pounds of homework every night. You get wrapped up in the soccer tournament. You start making new friends.
* Once in a while you get a pang of guilt because you haven't emailed your faraway friend or called the girl who isn't in your classes. You promise yourself you'll do it, and then more life gets in the way.
* Then it gets to be so long since you've reached out you're afraid to because maybe that old friend will be mad, will write back with, "Forget it. You weren't there when I needed you and now I don't any more."
*MORE time goes by and you wonder if she'll even remember you. Probably she doesn't care, right? What would be the point ...
I'm not saying you should keep in, like, hourly touch with every person you've ever been friends with. That's impossible, right? But a friend who's separated from the people she's used to being with is going to go through at least a short period of feeling lonely and anxious. THAT is the time when she still needs you.
So what can you do?
* Don't make promises you can't keep. If you KNOW you aren't one to call or email a lot, don't say, "You're going to hear from me EVERY SINGLE DAY."
* Make a promise you CAN keep. Can you email her once a week? Call her every other day for a while? If you're just in different classes, can you promise to meet before school every other day?
* Find a way to remind yourself -- put it on the family calendar -- make a special calendar to hang on your wall --
* Pray for your friend, asking God to help her with her loneliness and guide her to new friends wherever she is.
* Picture yourself in her place and do what you would want HER to do for you (That right there is a Jesus thing. Just sayin')
When you're in elementary and middle school, you're probably not going to keep every friend you make. But you can be there for the ones you have now until they can happily move on. Just remember, nobody likes to be forgotten. Nobody has to be ... not as long as YOU are around.
If you want to comment today:
* Tell us about a friend who has recently moved or for some reason can't be with you all the time OR about a friend who's getting ready to be separated from you.
* What can you do to help her not feel quite so lonely until she gets adjusted? Make it something you can actually handle (remember not to over-promise)
* Do it the first time. Tell us how it goes.
One thing is for sure: I'm far away from all of you. In fact, I NEVER get to see you. But I don't forget you. I'm always thinking, "Oh, the Mini-Women would love that," or "We definitely need to talk about that on TYAM." Just know that.
One more thing: God never, ever forgets any of us, not even for a second. You are always remembered.
Ya gotta love that.