Good morning, Mini-Women! Today is your last day for advice from one of your In Real Life teen Big Sisters -- at least until I go traveling again! I hope you've learned tons from these girls, because I always do. Our final post is written by MELODY. Don't forget to comment at the end!
"I've always wanted everyone to like each other and be happy, but when I was younger my pursuit of making sure everyone was okay actually caused more drama. Whenever a friend would come to me with a problem or complaint about another friend, I would listen and help if I could, but then I would go tell the friend that they were complaining about. I wasn't doing it to gossip or be mean, I thought that if I told the other friend about the problem she could just fix it and everyone could be happy again. I was trying to fix everyone else's problems, but that just led to more problems because I ended up with people mad and losing trust in me and even bigger arguments between the two people who already had a problem. If a friend comes to you because she has a problem with someone else, listen to her in confidence and give advice if you can, but then keep it to yourself (unless you need to tell an adult) and don't tell the other person. You may think you're helping, but you can't fix someone else's problem for them."
Um, does this sound familiar? Like maybe you've done it yourself? If you want to share, please do -- and tell us how hard it is NOT to do this.