Good morning, Mini-Women! I've been reading your comments and -- wow -- it gets ugly with those Christian friends sometimes, doesn't it? Yeah, that's what happens when people are human, huh? Even when we profess to love God with everything that's in us, and go to church and sing the praise songs, and raise money for Haiti because it's the Christian thing to do -- we all still sometimes act like we wouldn't know Jesus from a gas pump. I appreciate the fact that you are careful in outing your friends for their behavior, that you admit that you are right in there with them sometimes. Those are good instincts on your part; that's a godly attitude.But the fact remains, we have work to do. These are the things Christians around you (and within you!) do that really bother you:
* take the Lord's name in vain
* use other kinds of swearing
* spread gossip
* treat other people rudely
* cheat in school
* steal movies and music
Yikes! That sounds like the kind of stuff that goes on in prisons, for Pete's sake!
We talked yesterday about what to do about it, how to handle it without coming off like a "goody-goody. " What I'd like to focus on today is the whole language thing because that seems to be the most common and the hardest issue. When it comes to talkin' trash:
* Just because a word isn't technically a "cuss" word doesn't mean it's okay to use. Take "shut up" for instance. When you use it in that fun way, like when somebody tells you something unbelievable and you laugh and say, "Shut UP!", that doesn't hurt anybody's feelings. I loved it in The Princess Diaries when the girl was told she was a princess and she said to her grandmother, "Shut UP!" She wasn't literally telling Julie Andrews to shut her mouth. She was saying, "You are not SERIOUS!" But when you say shut up to mean, "I'm sick of hearing you talk," uh, no, there's nothing Christian about that. If somebody's getting on your last nerve and you know you're going to smack them if they say one more word, the Christian approach is to say, "I am so cranky right now. Could we just not talk for a couple of minutes?" See how that calms the scene without making the other person feel like what they have to say is worthless? Just about any word can be made to sound either nasty or lovely. The speaker gets to choose. Always try to go for the lovely
* God's name - and any other sacred name like Jesus, Jesus Christ, and Lord -- is holy and special. We say it when we're speaking about or to our creator, redeemer, savior and friend. If we use the name in our speech, there should always be a good, pure, real reason to. Otherwise, we use it "in vain". The phrase "in vain" means "without good result." For example, you try, in vain, to get your little brother to leave you alone when you're doing your homework. You search, in vain, for that hair clip you must have dropped at the mall. To use God's name in vain is to throw it around without a thought to holy results. What's the point in saying, "Oh, my GOD!" when you're surprised or shocked? It doesn't call upon God for anything. It doesn't praise God. It definitely doesn't glorify God. It's used "in vain", and all it does is cheapen God's name, make it just some ordinary word, and that's such an insult to our Father. You honor God by only speaking his name, or any other holy name, the way it is intended to be used. Anything else dishonors Him. Make sense?
* So many people cuss and swear and drop word-bombs, it's just become part of the world's vocabulary. You hear it on tv during prime time, in the halls when you're going to class, on the athletic field, in the dance studio and, unfortunately, sometimes even in the church yard. Some people say that it's SO common, the words themselves have lost their meaning so they're okay to use. Hmmm. I don't think so. Words have great power. That would be why God uses them -- as in, hello, The Word. But words can hurt with all that power, too -- they can leave wounds and scars -- they can make you feel trashy and icky and dirty and heinous. No matter how many times I hear certain words, they always tear at my soul. The more we hear them, yes, the more accustomed to them we become -- but that's the point. Do we WANT to listen to and speak ugly words without even thinking about how they affect other people, and ourselves? The worst part of swearing is when we get used to it and forget that its purpose is to tear down, not build up. We become sort of unconscious about the way we're slowly taking away the beauty and purity and sacredness God put us here to enjoy. You don't have to swear to be cool or to express anger or show you're excited. There are other, healthier, people-building, creative ways to do those things. Swearing is a lazy way to talk. If you're surrounded by it, find ways to avoid it, to replace it in your mind with different words and thoughts, and to express that you'd just really rather not hear that kind of language. If you say, "Could you guys not use that word around me? It totally offends me," some people are going to laugh and say, "What are you, a church chick?" Fine. You are. Proud of it. At least you have honored God by speaking up. That's all you can do. That and ask the appropriate adult to intervene with some firm talk about, well, talk.
* The same applies to WHAT we talk about. Whether you're swearing when you're doing it or not, chatting it up in negative ways about people behind their backs is a bad use of language. Girls are SO good at gossiping and as yucky as it is, it seems to draw us together! There's such a bond that forms when a group of girls gathers and agrees on how lame everybody else is! Or even when a band of FaithGirlz joins up to pray for people, and it turns into the passing around of juicy tidbits about them, knowing they would FREAK if they knew they were being talked about that way. You know it's wrong, but somehow it makes you feel like part of a group. Yeah, until you find out there's another group -- or even this one -- talking about YOU! Don't think it's not happening, because it is. People who talk TO you about other people, will talk to other people ABOUT you. That "bond" you thought you had wasn't made of the stuff real friendship is made of. The trick to stopping the gossip is not so much to deliver a sermon about its evils, but to have other, better stuff at the ready to talk about. When the trash talking starts, you can say, "Okay, I know it's fun to bash her, but it's wrong, so -- you guys want to plan a sleepover?" "Have you heard that cool song?" "At lunch today, let's see who can name the most purple things they see between now and then." There are SO many other things to chat about. Find them, and leave other people's lives alone. Oh, and for those of you who like to write stories -- pour all that she did this-she-did-that stuff into your next novel -- or better yet, get with your friends and write one together. Then you will ALWAYS have plenty to discuss.
We have SO much more to talk about -- like what to do if your friends are all wonderful at church and then go everyplace else and act like little heathens -- and how to respond when you see a sister or brother in Christ cheating -- and how to feel like you belong when the people you want to belong WITH are all into R-rated movies and suggestive music -- and how to tell your friends that bad is bad, there aren't degrees of bad! We'll get to all of that next week, as well as the subject of HEARING GOD which several of you wanted to discuss some more. Don't you love how we always have so much to learn? Seriously, if we were perfect right now, how boring would that be?If you want to post today, tell us how you would respond to this situation (suggested by MIRIAM) . Be specific and detailed so we can all learn from each other (but no preaching at one another, please!):
You're with one friend having a good time. You think she's way cool. A little later you're with another friend and she starts confiding in you about some things she knows about the first girl and before you know it she's really talking trash about her and saying she's so glad she has you to talk to about it because you're the only who understands.
All right, show us what you're workin' with!
Oh, and by the way, welcome Kaylah B.!
Good morning, Mini-Women! I am loving your comments about all the people who have helped YOU get what God is all about. A lot of you have really been blessed with cool Christian parents, teachers, pastors, youth leaders who've always been there with advice and encouragement and the occasional shove to get you back on track. Where would you be with out them, huh?
So here's the deal: YOU can be that for the Christian kids your own age. I know some of you feel like when you try to do that, the other kids are thinking, "Can't you leave God out of anything?" Others are feeling like they need to be witnessing to people who aren't Christians yet. But being there for the kids who do know Christ but just don't act like they've spent a lot of time with him lately is just as important as bringing new souls to the Lord -- and it can be done without you having to feel like the Preacher everybody runs from when they see you coming because they know you're going to get a sermon. If something isn't working, that means you need to find another way to do it. Here are some suggestions that DO work, and may for you, too:
(1) Relax about trying to find "non-believers" to talk to about God. He will bring you the people he wants you to minister to. You'll know them when you see them because, as we've said, they'll see how you live your life and they'll want to know more about it and they'll ask you questions. Now you know how to answer them if you've been reading the blog (If you haven't, go back to the last few week's posts).
(2) When you see your Christian friends acting like they never heard of Jesus in their lives (maybe they're cussing, gossiping, being out-and-out ugly to people, cheating, lying, being all about themselves), the first thing to do is pray for them -- and for you to know what to say and do about it. Give it time. Wait for answers. Sometimes those answers come from the help of those people you've posted about who are always there to guide you. Don't take any action or say anything until you feel very sure.
(3) Once you decide okay, I'm going to talk to this person about this behavior, get him or her alone, rather than blurting it out in front of other kids. Nobody takes well to being outed with an audience watching.
(4) Be brief and specific, just like when you're answering a God-question. Think about how you hate long lectures from your parents and don't deliver one to your friend. Just something like, "You probably aren't even aware of this, but you're putting people down a lot and that's not exactly the Jesus thing to do. I was thinking we could make, like, a pact to keep all our talk positive -- you know, sort of help each other with that." See how that keeps you from sounding like the superior one who knows all?
(5) Always be prepared with a solution rather than "You better change!" Always be willng to help with the change. The example in #4 shows how.
(6) I'm a firm believer that people act out for a reason, rather than just because they're clueless and bad. It's a good idea to ask your Christian-but-not-acting-like-it friend if there's something going on with her that's making her think doing what she's doing is a good idea. A lot of times kids start cussing or lashing out because there's fighting going on at home or they're angry at the way they're being treated in the classroom. Fear that parents are going to get a divorce or that dad is going to lose his job can make people get all dramatic over little stuff. Ask your friend what's up before you all her on her behavior. She might just need somebody to listen.
(7) Remember that you can't change somebody else's behavior. You can only point it out in love and offer to help and then pray. If the person you're pointing out un-Christian stuff to says, "Why don't you mind your own business?", you're pretty much going to have to, except for the praying, of course. Nagging, badgering, stalking -- those won't help. YOo'll want to stay away from their gossip or swearing or excluding of other girls, and that may leave you feeling lonely for your friends -- but they're going to get lonely for you, too, and that might give them a reason to think about what you've said.
(8) While you're doing this, BE YOURSELF. Don't put on a pastor voice or try to sound like a youth leader. That will be about as natural as me holding that basketball. You aren't going to get through unless you are completely and totally just you.
(9) Finally, be willing to admit your own not-so-godly actions and words. Remember the verse about not pointing out the splinter in the other person's eye until you remove that big ol' honkin log from your own? Keep working on your own stuff and never speak like you're holier-than-thou. Being a Christian is all about showing love. You don't have to love what your friends are doing, but you can still love them by continuing to be the best Christian you can be -- no talking about them behind their backs, telling other people how un-Jesus-like they are. Jesus said to let other people know you are Christians by the love you show each other in the faith. If people who dont' know Him yet see you bad-mouthing your church-going friends, they're sure not going to want what you have going on.
Does that help? No, it doesn't tell you how to witness to people on the beach while you're on vacation or guarantee that all your friends are always going to behave like the Christians they profess to be. But hopefully it gives you something solid to work with, right now. If you want to post in the next few days, tell us what kinds of things you see Christian kids doing that are not what Jesus would do and I'll see if I can give you more specific ideas about how to handle that. Don't give each other advice yet -- just pose your problems. And keep praying!Blessings,
Good morning, Mini-Women! I'm grinning -- really BIG -- right now because I've been reading your answers to the questions that seekers might ask you about your faith. My smile is honkin' HUGE because I think the future of Christianity is in very good hands. Yours.
MELODY'S. KATIE'S. VERONICA'S. SARAH'S. LEXI'S.BECKY'S. BETH'S (and thanks for all the love, Beth) . WRITER2'S. BOOKWORM'S.
BROWNIE GIRL'S (who we welcome big time, by the way!) JANE'S. KATELYN'S. ELEANOR'S. STEPHANIE'S. KRISTI JEAN'S. NICOLE G'S. MIRIAM'S. IRELAND'S and HOLLY'S .
If I had questions about God and you gave me these answers, I would want to know Him -- the way you do.
You are well on your way to being the best witnesses God could ask for. You've learned so far to "preach" without words, showing Christ to every one just by the way you live your life. (Like STEPHANIE, who with her dad has donated $200 for the people of Haiti) You've learned how to answer the big questions, and you've learned what NOT to do -- like make people feel like they've been mugged when you start talking to them about Jesus, or, even worse, make them feel like losers because they haven't gotten it before now.
As we've talked, though, a few more issues have come up (which is what makes a good discussion):
* ALY wants to answer a question about God , but so far no one's asking. What do you do when you're dying to share your faith and the opportunity just doesn't come up?
* JANE speaks for many of you when she says that she can't even talk about God to other kids who say they're Christians but don't act like it. How do you talk to THEM without being preachy and turning everybody off even more?
* NICOLE, EMII, and BETH say that they try to pray about all this and really listen to God, but their minds wander . . . to books they've read . . . weird daydreams . . . tacos. How can we focus on God when the world keeps getting in the way?
Those are the questions we're going to talk about this week -- tomorrow and Friday (you get an extra post this week!) If you want to post today, tell us about somebody who talked to YOU about Christ -- whether it was like coming home to a warm house, or it made you want to run like crazy. Your stories will help a lot as we continue to talk about Spreading the Good News.
See you tomorrow!
Good morning, Mini-Women! Have I mentioned how proud I am of you? You've posted such great thoughts about how you would answer questions from people who ask about your faith because they see it in you. I gotta say, I know adults who wouldn't know how to handle those situations as well as you obviously do.Just a few examples:
QUESTION: -How are you so connected with God? I don't get it
SARAH: "I've just learned to take baby steps getting to know God. Like just saying hi and saying thanks for something." She advises against trying to explain the Beatitudes or something. (I'm not sure I could do that myself!)
QUESTION: Isn't God all discipline and punishment if you break one of the Ten Commandments?"
SARAH: He loves you. a lot. He's more interested in knowing you than punishing you. (That is an amazing answer, Sarah)
QUESTION: Why don't you watch PG-13 movies and talk like the rest of us (bad language)?
ELEANOR: Because I have a really close famiy and I don't WANT to watch any bad movies or swear. It doesn't really make you cool, no matter what people say." She'd also like to try THIS answer: "Because God says I don't have to do all that stuff to be cool. I'm cool in my own way. I know everyone feels pressured to do that stuff at times, but God can get rid of that icky feeling." GO for it, ELLIE. Give that answer next time it comes up. It is NOT too much.
QUESTION: Why do you go to church and all that?
KATELYN: Because I like to learn about Jesus. I'll take you if you want to. It's your choice." (see how inviting that is?)
QUESTION: Why are you a Christian?
BECKY: "Being a Christian means loving God and following what he says. Iove God because he loved me first. " (another great answer!) BECKY says she's "chickened out" on giving that answer at times, but she thinks now Jesus will give her the courage to say it. That's the ticket, now, isn't it? JESUS providing the courage.
QUESTION: Why are you so happy?NICOLE G: "Well, why would I be sad? I know the best thing in the universe times infinity -- Jesus." (Hope you can say that at the right time to your neighborhood friend, NICOLE)
BETHAN has always wanted a friend to ask a God-question and no one has yet. I"m sure we've all been there. But SARAH gave me an idea for how to practice -- because it WILL happen someday.
Here are three questions someone MIGHT ask. If you want to post today, just choose one (or more!) and tell us how you would answer it. Before you do, go back and look at last Friday's post (February 5) to review the suggested do's and don'ts. Then pray for God's words -- and listen -- and they'll be there.
(1) How do you even know there IS a God?
(2) So -- how come you have to go to church every Sunday? My dad says he can worship God on the golf course.
(3) Do you, like, actually HEAR God talking to you when you pray? Isn't that kind of weird?
Let's collect some really thought-filled answers. Maybe we'll put together a "How To Talk To YOur Friends About God" page on the Nancy Rue website, huh? I told you -- I"m that proud of you.Meanwhile, keep displaying your faith without words always -- the way AMY is being nice to her mom's BFF's daughter who is "REALLY, like, annoying!" Tough gig, Amy, but you can do it, girl! VERONICA is working at preaching-without-speaking, too, by stepping in during ballet class when a certain boy starts making fun of people, and thinking he's hilarious doing it (he's so not) God keeps reminding VERONICA of him-- a sure sign that he's going to need some answers soon . TALIA is going to organize a card-making campaign for her homeschool co-op. STEPHANIE has learned in a sad way to go ahead and say, "I love you. God loves you," to someone she cares about because you never know what tomorrow is going to bring. (We'll be thinking and praying for you on Valentine's Day, Stephanie)
One thing we can ALL do - and that is to be people of joy. Christians do NOT have to go around looking like somebody just died. Somebody ROSE -- which means we can CELEBRATE. Check out the FaithGirls in the picture above, taken at the event in Wisconsin. They are all wearing the funky ends of the FaithGirlz pens ON THEIR NOSES! I think God loves it when we abandon ourselves to delight, because other people see it and they want in on it. Invite them!One more thing before I'm off to write a book and make sure the puppies don't chew the leg off of my desk chair. I want to compliment BETH for her apology. I didn't even get that Beth was that angry about my limiting comments to the subject at hand here on the blog -- but she felt bad about it and asked our forgiveness. Now THAT is a girl-of-God. What better witness coud we have?
Wait -- one more one-more thing: congratulations on your baptism, AMY!!!!Have a great, answer-filled day, Mini-Women.Blessings,
You have got the hang of Step One - Spreading the word without saying a word! ELEANOR is being nice to "Hazle" (not her real name) even though nobody else is -- and one of her friends asked why she was doing it, and Eleanor said -- drum roll please! . . . . "It's a God-thing." And -- this is the best part -- wait for it . . . Her friend said she wanted to learn more about that! Yes! So Eleanor has been emailing her and slowing telling her about Jesus, one little piece at a time. Now THAT is what I'm talkin' about!
I hope it works that way for ABBY, who is also being nice to a REALLY REALLY annoying girl in her class even though, again, most people aren't. (Makes you want to also work harder at not BEING that annoying girl, doesn't it?) We'll be waiting to see what happens, ABBY.
KATIE invited a guy in her class to her youth group, where he's way nicer than he is at school with his friends. She's hoping some of his nice-at-youth-group behavior will spill over into the rest of his life. Keep us posted, KATIE.
TALIA's decided she wants to be a good example to EVERYONE around her, not just people who aren't Christians yet. We're going to talk about ministering to our fellow believers in a post really soon. TALIA's good example is going to include not making people feel like she's better than they are, not thinking so many mean thoughts about people and focusing on their strengths instead, and talking nicer about people. She says she'll report results later. Please do, TALIA.
BECKY plans to keep herself from joining in when other kids are doing the rude-laughing thing, and she's going to try to get a boy from another country to talk more so they can build a friendship (it doesn't hurt that he's cute, but like she says, that's another topic!)
BETHAN feels like it's all about love (Yes!) and so she's going to smile and be helpful and friendly and polite to the people in her own neighborhood. She's also going to keep in touch with far-away friends and relatives, just so they know she cares.NICOLE is making it a habit to be open to people, a couple of girls in particular. By asking, "Hey, how ya doing?" she thinks maybe she'll get one of them to confess a whole, long story to her. There's nothing like having someone to talk your stuff over with to create a bond -- the kind God likes.
Some of you just have a person in mind, even though you haven't figured out exactly how to demonstrate your faith to them. LEXI has one such friend -- and I hope as you keep reading the posts, Lexi, you'll be inspired. KEITHTISHA has a real challenge with the person she's thinking of -- "the boy in my class". She just, well, doesn't like him - and KEITHTISHA, that is a great place to start: trying to figure out what you can like about him. In fact, that's one of the godliest things I can think of right now . . . (and by the way, you just keep being girly -- it's you!) MIRIAM, too, has a tough one -- some Muslim girls in her class whom everyone bullies. You're right, MIRIAN -- it doesn't matter what your religion is, nobody has the right to bully you for it. Its puzzling, but it's true -- as a comitted Christian, you have a responsibility to protect her right to freedom from harrrassment, even if she doesn't believe as you do. Who would WANT to be a Christian if Christians make your life miserable?
As for SARAH -- she's going to try just listening. Wow. That is SO wise. You may be the only person who lets "family girl" talk, Sarah. What a gift from God you are for her. It may turn out for you as it did for HOLLY. She tries to let her "little light shine" around her neighbors, and one of them has become a Christian.
Yeah, I think you've got a handle on this thing. As we move on to Step Two, don't stop practicing Step One -- ever. It's more than just a way to show people who Jesus is. It's a way to live -- for you. Don't you just like yourself better when you're livin' it? God, you can be sure, likes it, too.
So what IS Step Two and when do you take it?
* Step Two is ANSWERING QUESTIONS.
* You take it when somebody asks one.Sounds simple, right? It is -- but that doesn't mean it's easy. It can be hard because --
* You don't want to wait around hoping somebody will ask you something about your faith
* When they do, it's even harder not to pour the whole Gospel over their head until they run away screaming because you're tryng to drown them!What DO you, then, when someone says, "Why are you so happy all the time?" or "How come you don't swear?" or "Why do you go to church anyway? Isnt it boring?"
(1) You do what's natural for YOUR personality. If you're shy and reserved, you'll probably only say a few words -- but important ones. If you're way passionate about your faith, you may want to say, "This is SO cool! Okay -- stop me when you're filled up enough for now." The way you share the good news has to be REAL, or your friend is going to think the whole message is fake. You don't have to use the preacher voice.
(2) Use plain English --not church talk. If a person knows nothing about the Lord, she isn't going to get, "Jesus died on the cross for our sins so we can take him into our hearts and be saved." Seriously -- that's going to sound like a foreign language to her and it will make her feel like an outsider. If you can relate the Good News to that person's life, it's going to make a whole lot more sense. Something like, "When I really talk to God, it's like I can remember not to be such a jerk to people, you know?"
(3) Just answer the question and wait for another question. Don't deliver a sermon until the person's eyes glaze over. Keep it simple.
(4) If the person seems totally interested or is asking questions you don't feel comfortable answering, that's the time to say, "You want to come to church (youth group, Sunday school) with me? It's a total blast and you can find out everything you want to know."Things NOT to say:
* "You need to get saved soon or you're going to go to hell when you die."
* "You would be a better person if you were a believer."
* "I can't really be your friend until you become a Christian."
* I have the Sinner's Prayer here in my backpack. Pray it, and you'll be saved."
You are SO good at keepin' it real, and there is no better time to do that than when you have a chance to say, "I can totally tell you about Jesus. What do you want to know?"
If you keep doing Step One, Step Two is going to follow eventually. Now's the time to get ready. If you want to post today, tell us what you might say if a person did ask you a God-question. Try to make it as real as you can, as authentic to you as the color of your eyes. Share it with us -- because there are no better people to learn this from than those who are right in there with you.I can't wait!Blessings,
Just a final reminder: if you want to talk to me about your life and what you have on your mind isn't what we're talking about here on teh blog, you can email me at email@example.com.
Hello, Mini-Women! I'm sorry I'm late posting today, but I had trouble getting my photos to load, and I knew you wouldn't want to miss THIS! Meet Geneveve- snoozing -- and Guinness, hugging his sister (and probably nibbling on her ear!) Aren't they the best? They came home to live with us Friday, and they are already part of the family.
They have so much to learn -- where to poop and pee (starting with not in the house!), what things they can chew (uh, not the dining room chairs!), and when it's time to eat (not ALL the time!) We're starting with baby steps -- today they learned how to go up the stairs, how sit for treats, and what it feels like to be on a leash (for, like five minutes) If we expected them to go for a mile walk or bring the dad his slippers this week, we'd be way disappointed.
It's the same with us, trying to talk to people about our faith. We're starting with STEP ONE, which is just to ACT LIKE A GOOD CHRISTIAN KID. We're not ready to say a word yet, at least, not in the process we're using. And we're definitely not ready to give each other advice on the subject yet! What I'm thinking is that it's time for a little reminder about how we operate, especially since we have so many wonderful new FaithGIrlz joining us now. SO --
* In each post, I ask a question or give a challenge, and everybody who wants to comment JUST gives her answer or tells what she's done to meet the challenge.
* If you have a topic you'd like to talk about, you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I'll either email you back or talk about that topic on a future post
* If you want to talk about your writing -- which I definitely encourage! -- you can email me. I've had so many requests for help with stories, I've decided to add something new to the website --coming soon! But since not everybody is a budding author, this isn't the perfect place to share stories or talk about developing characters, fun as that is for some. This particular blog is more about things that most tween girls are dealing with
* As much fun as it is to "chat", we don't do much of that on Tween You and Me. Again, this is mostly for responding to the question of the day. For those of you who have just joined us, you'll be surprised at how included you'll feel and how many friends you'll make here if you stay with the topic
I LOVE hearing from all of you, and you're free to email me as much as you like. Just know, though, that every time you post a comment, it comes straight to my email. That's lot to read! Again, I love to know what you're thinking -- just think it THROUGH before you post!
Now -- back to the topic! Since we got a little loaded up with fun-but-not-exactly-on-the-subject goodies, we've strayed from our path a little. Shall we get back on? Here's what to post if you'd like to make a comment:
The best way to start out sharing your faith with people who could really use some, is not to SAY anything at first, but to find a way to DEMONSTRATE what you believe. What we'd like to hear is
(1) who you'd like to see knowing God (not a name, of course, but just like, "a girl in my class" or "a kid on my soccer team")
(2) what one small thing you could do when you're around that person that would say-without-words, this is the Good News. For example -- WRITER2 says her family always tries to be on their super-best behavior when they're at parties with those who don't share the faith yet -- and BECKY is trying not to snap back a sarcastic reply when this really annoying older boy (total ALC) whispers to her an absolutely rude comment. MIRIAM is trying to show that same kind of example in South London. ABBY is trying not to talk about people behind their backs. NICOLE is going to smile at eveyrone she sees, be vareful what she says, even when she's kidding, and be encouraging. THAT"s what we're talkin' about!
(3 and THEN after you've done it, tell us how it went
Once I hear from bunches of you about how you're SHOWING that you live by God, we can move on to what to say and when to say it. Remember this is Step One, which will help LILY FAN love her Muslim neighbor and RUE FAN stick to what she's promised to do in this area and BOOKWORM minister to California GIrl with her piercings. Let's see how amazing we can be at staying on track. After all, we've got God's work to do!