ofHello, Mini-Women! BETH said that she never really thought of the good things about siblings before our last post, but she and a bunch of you found some pretty cool things to say about them.
BROOKLYN saw the caring side of her brothers when a pet died.
SQUIRRELGIRL and AMY both have brothers who cheered them up (or at least tried) when they were in a bad place. In AMY's case, and in LIZZIE LEE's, that also meant knowing to stay out of their way! Just goes to show boys CAN be sensitive now and then.
When BETH had a sprained ankle, her brother actually made her a smoothie without expecting one for himself, and anther brother toted her crutches for her. LIZZIE LEE also suffered a sprained ankle (Do you girls live on a obstacle course?) and she appreciated her siblings for not stealing HER crutches more than once a day!
Speaking of being injured, when AMELIA was suffering her own broken bone situation, her brothers did a ton of stuff for her, including her chores. She now can't imagine her world without them in it.
And brothers aren't the only ones who can surprise us with their un-sibling-like behavior. GRACE ANNE had a sweet moment with her TV-remote-hoarding little sister who noticed that Grace Anne was down and offered her the choice of the next show. Now that's sisterly love!
I think we all came to the conclusion that we don't always give our brothers and sisters enough credit for having it in them to be kind, helpful, caring, and perceptive (basically, human!). Our Number One Guideline for Getting Along with Siblings is clearly:
Notice when your sibling does something even close to nice for you. Store it in your memory for those times when he or she forgets you aren't the enemy. It will keep you from flushing your sibling down the toilet.
Of course, there's a very good reason why we DON'T always follow guideline number one. REBEKAH's experience is a good example. She commented that when she had a meltdown the other day (not an unusual occurrence for a tween girl) none of her siblings was much help. That's probably more normal than those shining moments when they do come through -- which means we (a) don't expect our brothers and sisters to be there when we need them and (b) when they are, we tend to wonder what's in it for them!
That leads us to our next step, which is to figure out what it is about siblings (and us, since we are sisters to THEM . . .) that makes them less than wonderful sometimes.
* Sibling is your exact opposite (GRACE HEATHER)
* Sibling is exactly like you (AMY)
* Sibling gives you the silent treatment (ERICA)
* Sibling tries to be your other mother (ERICA)
* YOU have to be the mother because your siblings don't do their share (MAY and ABI)
* Siblings don't have boundaries -- barge in on you in the shower, "borrow" your stuff without asking, let the air out of a saliva-filled balloon right in your face (GRACE ANNE)
* Siblings have to share a room with you, esp. when they create heinous havoc (LIZZIE LEE)
* Siblings look up to you because you're the oldest so you have to be perfect (GRACE ANNE)
* Siblings blame you for everything because you're the youngest (BROOKLYN)
* Brothers are arrogant (BETH) or are built like human time bombs (AMELIA)
* Siblings are spoiled and rowdy (BROWNIE GIRL)
* Siblings get physically carried away and inflict bodily harm (JAXIELOVESCHRIST) while you somehow get the blame
It's a wonder any of us comes out of childhood alive! Most of us do, as you can see from the above picture of me and MY sister. We're close friends now, even though when I was little (I'm seven years younger) I ruined one of her favorite dolls and embarrassed her in front of more than one boyfriend. But that doesn't help you much right now when you're faced with any or all of the above.
So let's fix that if we can. As we move toward the Number Two Guideline for Getting Along With Siblings, here's what you can post:
(1) Which of those starred items on the list sounds like something that happens at your house? (There may be more than one)
(2) What do all of them seem to have in common? In other words, what's the one cause for all those conflicts, do you think?
Let's see what you can come up with. Then we'll work on making that better (as in, you might reach adulthood without being arrested for sibling abuse!)
I'm praying for ya!