Yesterday I asked what you think happens when people make promises they can't, don't, or never intend to keep. YOU said:
"If you don't keep your promise someone won't trust you and you could make them very sad if they work hard and then don't get what you promised." (When Papa promises to play with Maeryn on his BIG computer if she picks up her toys, he keeps that promise, because LOOK at the way she trusts him . . .)
"A lot of times I will say something and go over it later in my head and I realize that I probably shouldn't have said it."
And you are absolutely right. I'm going to add two:
"If you make promises and break them and nobody calls you on it, it's easy to keep doing it."
"You start breaking the pormises you make to yourself."
So what do we do about that? I can say, "Before you make a promise really think about whether you can keep it," and that's true. But it's also hard. So let's start with a smaller step.
Let's make a list of the WorthWHILE words you can use INSTEAD of the WorthLESS words. Here is yesterday's list of promise-making phrases and sentences, with a few added that came in after I posted. Read through them again:
I'll stay with you always.
I'll always love you.
I won't tell.
I won't forget.
I won't be late.
I will pay you more when you pay me.
I'll pay you a quarter (or a dollar) if you'll_______
I won't talk to you ever again.
I won't talk this whole class period.
Mine! (in volleyball when you call the ball and then just stand there)
It'll just be five more minutes
If you _________ I'll be your best friend!
I will leave you alone (not bother you any more).
Now see if you can substitute some honest words for each of those, words you CAN follow up on and be true to.
Here's how I would do the first one: