Good morning, Mini-Women! I'm holding up four fingers in this picture (I know you can only see three but trust me the fourth one is there) because today as we finish up our week on not telling the truth, I'm offering you a four-step plan for what to do when you realize, "Oops, I just lied."
Step 1 -- ADMIT to yourself that you haven't told the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Don't convince yourself it isn't lying when you leave out a fact because it would make you look bad or that it's okay because that lie didn't hurt anybody or that everybody exaggerates. Face it. You lied.
Step 2 -- ASK God to (a) forgive you and (b) guide you through the next steps and (c) help you change those things in you that make you feel like the truth isn't good enough
Step 3 -- Make AMENDS. That means go to the people you lied to and tell them you misled them. Apologize for any hurt you caused. Ask for forgiveness -- even if it seems awkward (it will be, just so you know)
Step 4 -- AGREE with God that you're better than that -- that you were created as someone special who doesn't have to "fix" the truth to make people think you're wonderful, or leave out facts so people won't think you're horrible, or cover up things you've done so you won't get in trouble. No matter what anyone may tell you, you are a daughter of God and therefore you're amazing. Focus on that amazingness, because that IS the truth.
Think about the last lie (from fib to whopper) you told. Go through the four A steps today and see what happens. If you want to comment, tell us what you plan to do or did do and what the results were. I know it's not easy, Mini-Women, so please know I'll be praying for you.
On a lighter note -- our LIVE ON-LINE BLOG PARTY IS TOMORROW!!! Here are the details again in case you've just joined us or you need a reminder:
WHERE: Right here on Tween You and Me
WHEN: Friday, November 1
WHAT TIME: 5:00 - 6:00 p.m. U.S. Central Time
HOW: I publish posts and you post comments and I answer them with more posts. It's so fun!
HOW TO GET READY:
Think about all the Worthless Words we've been talking about. See where you've improved and where you still need to do some more work. The areas we've covered are --
* making promises you can't keep
* telling secrets you shouldn't
* constantly complaining
* gossipping and spreading rumors
* teasing that hurts
* talking trash
And email me any pictures you have that show WorthWHILE Words in action. That'll require you to be creative, right?
We always do a snack contest, and I think since we'll be celebrating 51 days of healthy talking, we should offer a prize for the healthiest celebration snack you can think of. Pictures of that would be great too and it's always best to email me those by Friday morning, November 1.
One more thing: let me know if you plan to be there, so I can include you in some of the fun post thingies I'm doing ahead of time. I can't wait for this, can you? (P.S. if you can't join us for the party you can still enter your healthy celebration snack in the contest.)
I won't publish a post for you tomorrow morning because I'll be getting ready for five o'clock!
"An honest answer is like a warm hug." (Proverbs 24:26, The Message)
Dear God, just like in Step 2, we ask you to please forgive us for the lies we've told and the wrong thoughts that make us lie in the first place. Please guide us as we admit our flub-ups and help us to make amends to the people we've lied to, even when it's awkward. Thank you for making us special, each one of us -- and please, please nudge us when we forget who we are, when we forget that who you made us to be requires no "fixing."