Okay, don't let me get hung up on food. The point is, I wish we were gathering someplace fun to share an after school snack and talk about how we're going to trip bullying and bring it down together. Since we're spread out all over the WORLD (one of you actually lives in India!) we can't do that, so our After School Wednesday blog post is the next best thing.
If you've just joined us -- like LILLIAN did -- welcome Lillian! -- go to the place to the right of this post where it says So Not Okay and click there to get caught up. Did I miss anybody who's joined us since last time?
Right now we're working on developing our one-liners -- those positive, one-sentence responses we can use when somebody bullies somebody in your presence OR they turn the bullying on you. We've worked them and reworked them and we've talked about the TONE of voice to use when you say them so it doesn't sound like you think you're the boss of everyone or that you're basically saying, "neener-neerner-neener." Along the way, you've made some discoveries:
LEAH said even practicing with her mom she just couldn't get the words out. She basically said, "Um ..."
LARISSA practiced her one-liner by herself and she said it sounded like she was "asking for a battle"!
Did I mention that this wasn't going to be easy?
So how do we not give up because it's too hard? How do we keep standing up for people when we're having trouble getting past "um ..."?
The Tribelet member in So Not Okay who has the most trouble with that is Winnie. She's:
* naturally shy
* really pale
* gets scared easily
* has had the Pack (the mean girls) bully her before and isn't crazy about that happening again
But by the end of the book (and I won't spoil it for you if you haven't read it) she really surprises everybody and steps up. Maybe if we look at how Winnie did it, that will help you.
1. She didn't try to do it alone. Winnie got her courage from Tori and Mitch.
2. She didn't try to be the leader. She just did what she could. When a quiet voice was called for, she was there. When everybody else was talking and doing stuff, she observed and saw important things.
3. She could relate to Ginger (the girl being bullied) because it had happened to her. She remembered what it felt like and she didn't want that pain for Ginger.
4. She knew a grown-up (Lydia) had their backs and that gave her courage too.
For this week, tell us which of those four things helps you the most in being able to stand up with your one-liner. Then give it a try again, even if it's just with your mom, and tell us how it goes.
If you meet this challenge, my Tribelet Mini-Women, you'll be on the list to receive a free copy of You Can't Sit With Us when it comes out December 1. Sound good?
All right -- you have a week. DO that Winnie thing!