First, the anti-bullying broadcast went GREAT, and you can now watch it on YouTube. Just click here and snuggle in with a cold drink and some snacks.
Next I want to thank NIMI for explaining the Talking to God Journal to our newest members, and HADASSAH for explaining the image exercise to NIMI. And KAYLEE for running through how to have your questions answered, again for those just joining us.
Speaking of joining, welcome MELISSA! And welcome back APRIL! Is this a great group or what?
Two more things:
* KAYLEE -- I'm going to look up your question and send you an email, okay?
* THELITTLEFLOWER -- We will definitely be talking about Moms during our Alphabet series so hold that thought. Meanwhile, I'm sure NIMI's advice was helpful to you.
Next, I want to say how jazzed I was by all the images you described to us -- the pictures you get in your minds when you aren't being your true and wonderful selves Here's our list:
short stuff plastered-on fake smile a big red heap
blue blob with a thermometer in its mouth (glad you explained that, Hadassah!)
my body with a big red flaming brain, but a big smile on my face
an annoying yippy puppy who wants to get all the attention
me with a smaller me curled up inside
the words STUPID IDIOT WRONG!!! talkative jester
one large mouth that won't stop moving a big raindrop
WEIRD .... WEIRD .... WEIRD
That has to reassure each of you that you aren't the only one who feels like a total fake sometimes. And the purpose of this again? Every time you get that image in your mind, you know you're not being real. Time to step back and see how you could be more AUTHENTIC in the situation -- even if it means you don't fit in. After all, sometimes it isn't a good thing to fit in, right?
We're going to talk about more ways to be your true self as the summer goes on. In fact, we're starting today with our B word which is ... well, wait ... let's look at what YOU came up with --
Barefoot (LLARIA -- "it makes me think about how we have to walk the path that God has set for us, and do his calling").
Breastplate of righteousness
Barmy ( very British word for insane … thanks ASHER!)
I could write a post (or maybe a book!) oN every single one of those. The one that came to me -- and to several of you, too -- was ... drum roll please ...
That's a word every Mini-Women needs to use to describe herself.
So ... why is it so hard to say, "I am beautiful?" I think it started 500 years ago. In the 1500's somebody invented THE MIRROR. Before that, people didn't really know what they looked like unless they stared into a very still pool of water or .. well, we'll get to the "OR" in a minute.
Once people were able to look at themselves, the self-criticism started. You know what I'm talking about, right? We've probably all stood in front of a mirror and picked ourselves apart. This is what I thought when I was your age (I hope you don't hate when I do this): "My nose is too big." "My eyebrows look like a patch of weeds." "Why won't my mom let me wear make-up?. It could cover all these shiny pimples that gross me out." "My hair is stupid." "Ohmygosh .. I'm ugly. When did I turn ugly?"
First thing to write in your Talking to God Journal on the letter B page, under BEAUTIFUL, is a list of the things you think are ugly when you look in the mirror. You won't be sharing that here or showing it to anyone else, so go for it. Get it all out, girl.
That isn't the only kind of mirror that makes you think you're not beautiful. This other mirror is the one that's been around the longest -- probably since Adam and Eve looked at each other for the first time after they got kicked out of the Garden. It's what you see reflected in other people when they look at you. Here are some examples:
* You walk into a room where you don't know anybody and the boys start snickering. Immediately you think: there's something wrong with me. (unless you're already pretty authentic, in which case you realize they are just being their absurd little creep selves)
* Your sister is always telling you you're fat.
* Your parents say, "You're not fat, honey. You and your sister are just built differently. You're never going to be as skinny as she is." Like THAT helps.
The next thing to write in your Journal is a list of the things other people reflect back to you about your appearance or the inside you they think they see. Some of that might be positive -- maybe people are always telling you that they have hair envy whenever they're around you or other kids always laugh when you say something funny.
Can you imagine living before 1500 and having to depend on other people to tell you what you looked like ... and even who you were? I'm not sure which is worse, that kind of reflection, or the one you critique when you peer into an actual looking glass.
Fortunately, we have one more type of mirror that ALWAYS gives us a true reflection. And that, of course, is how we look in God's eyes. Get this: GOD DOES NOT MAKE UGLY. Other people decide what's ugly -- but you don't have to agree because you know you were wonderfully made (WHAT PSALM IS THAT FROM, MINI-WOMEN?)
Maybe what you see in the mirror doesn't match what the "pretty girls" look like. Does it have to? Who says?
Maybe other people are rude enough to make you feel like you shouldn't take your head out from under a paper bag. That makes THEM ugly, not you.
But every single person is beautiful in God's eyes, and becomes more so the closer she gets to God.
So here's what to do next, Beautiful Mini-Women.
* Have your Talking to God Journal and pen next to you as you look long into a mirror.
* On the B page, under all the other stuff you've written, write THANK YOU GOD FOR ... and then list everything about you -- inside and out - that is beautiful. This isn't being conceited. This is showing gratitude for how you were made.
Here's the start of my list --
* My big brown eyes
* My smile
* Those crinkles at the corners of my eyes from years of laughing
* My leanness
* My laugh
* My compassion for people, especially mini-women
* My writing gift
* The way I open my home to people who need a haven
Get the idea?
If you want to post a comment, you can do two things:
1. Tell us 5 beautiful things you discovered about yourself
2. Take a guess at what the letter C word is going to be
Now gaze at those beautiful selves!