Helloooooo, New Women! I'm so sorry I couldn't post Friday -- this is your "make-up post" to finish up last week (the first week in Advent) -- we'll start on Week 2 tomorrow. You're always so patient.
Before we go on, let's welcome SOPHIA!!! We're so glad you've joined us and have jumped right in. This is the perfect time to get started with us -- but then, what ISN'T a good time for a new Mini-Woman to show up on Tween You and Me?
Your responses to what "closet" you find yourself locked in these days were awesome. Here's what you said ...
KAYLEE: always wishing and wanting to be better at things, like my family not fighting so much, getting along better
ASHLYN: trouble making choices about who to be friends with – who are the good, the bad, the real or the fake friends?
WENDY: scared of failure at school; also wondering if people think I’m stupid or immature
ASHER: trying to find my talents and how I can use them, because it seems as if everyone’s found theirs already and are cruising through life.
THIRZAH: wondering if I should try to be different when my friends decide they want something different and leave me out; sometimes my friends tell me that the reason was because they weren’t feeling well or something and it makes me feel as if they don’t want to be with me because I wasn’t born in America like they were.
ERIN: worrying about the future
JOSIE: “I’m in the worry about how others will think about me closet.”
ALYSSA: trying to keep everyone smiling and when people are feeling down I can’t help but ask what’s wrong even if it’s none of my business.
SOPHIA: I’m super insecure.
HALLE BELLE: wondering if people think I’m too authentic. Sometimes that makes me want to NOT be myself, which I know is NOT good for me.
GRACE: getting annoyed easily
I could feel your troubled spirits right over the Internet. None of wants to be in those closets. They're scary, confining places where it's hard to move and breathe. That is NOT the life our God wants for us. I know that for a fact.
God was so eager for us to be free that he sent his Son here to show us that we don't have to live in those tiny, smelly closets forever. And not only SHOW us, but unlock the doors. THAT is why we celebrate Christmas, and as we said in our last post, we can't really celebrate being set free if we don't even know we were locked up on the first place.
Here's the thing about a closet: If it's locked, you can't UNlock it from the inside. Trust me: we once had an Irish setter who jumped on the door of mine when I was in there and shut it ... and I was trapped. I almost went nuts until my husband hear me banging and yelling, "Let me out!!!"
God-in-Christ is always hanging around, waiting for you to go, "I'm sick of being in here! Please open the door!" Just say the word -- or should I say, the prayer -- and the key will turn. Then YOU can ...
* push it open a crack and peek out to see what it's like out there in freedom (other people are free so it must be
* poke your head through and see that it's safe to come out (nobody's waiting there to take you down because most of the fears are in your own head) * take a step, just one, and realize it's SO much better out there (you find yourself not caring what other people think all the time; you realize when other people treat you mean it's THEIR issue, not yours; somebody's there to help you with those hard school subjects)
* close the door behind you (who needs to worry about the future when you're not even 12 years old yet? who else can you be but yourself, really? who said you had to be responsible for absolutely everybody's happiness?)
I wish I could say that the moment you close the door you'll never go back into that closet again. I can't. You're going to want to run in there and hide from time to time. That's why God is always hanging out there. Just keep calling for God and eventually you'll wonder why you ever thought that closet was a place you needed to be.
Here's what to do:
- In each of the squares on your calendar for December 4, 5, 6 and 7, write a one- or two-word prayer. Something like HELP! PLEASE! UNLOCK! FREEDOM NOW!
- In your Talking to God Journal, write a prayer to God asking him to get you out of that dark closet that's crowded with all your junk thoughts. Tell God how it feels in there and why you want to come out and live as your true self. God doesn't need all that information; God's good with that one word prayer. This prayer is for you, so you'll have a conversation with your Father and know that he's there, hand on the door knob.
- If you want to comment before tomorrow (and of course you can always catch up later), tell us your FOUR one-word prayers. We'll have an in-box full of God-cries. I like it.
Nancy Rue, whose one-word prayer right now is "THANKS!